Sexual Well-Being

Consent

Sexual well-being is about creating positive, safe and respectful experiences that can be pleasurable and meet your preferences. Consent is not about hindering sex but rather enhancing your sexual experience by knowing you and your partner are on the same page.

Remember, Consent Is...

  • Not obtainable when someone under the influence of alcohol or drugs is incapacitated
  • Revocable and can be taken back at any time
  • Always needed even if you have had consensual sex with someone once or many times before
  • Given of free will and without pressure or coercion
  • Consistent agreement between verbal and body language

Verbal Consent Sounds Like...

  • Saying 'yes' under his/her own free will
  • 'I want to'
  • 'Keep doing that'
  • Sounds of enjoyment like laughing or moaning

Body language looks like...

  • Nodding in agreement
  • Making eye contact
  • Initiating physical contact
  • Relaxed, open posture

Safe Sex Basics

Using condoms and dental dams regularly and correctly support sexual well-being by protecting you and your partner(s) from transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STI) and human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). This can make sex more enjoyable by offering peace-of-mind and allowing you and your partner to instead focus your attention on each other.

Barrier Methods

Barrier methods are available for oral, anal and vaginal sex and come in a variety of options:

  • Internal condom
  • External condom
  • Dental dam

Condom Availability

Free condoms are included in your Student Health Fee and available at the Student Health Center. We currently have the following options:

  • SATIN Dams
  • Trojan Ultra Thin Lubricated Condoms
  • Trojan ENZ Condoms
  • LifeStyles Non-Latex Lubricated Condoms

Using Barrier Methods Correctly


Testing

Respectful sexuality means knowing your status for your own well-being and that of your partner(s).  Sexually active adults, meaning those engaging in anal, vaginal and/or oral sex, should be tested for common STIs like chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea and HIV.

How Often Should I Get Tested?

Testing guidelines vary and are dependent upon considerations like number of partners, whether barrier methods are used, if a partner is positive for STIs and others.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention offer general guidelines: Which STD Tests Should I Get?

STI Testing at the Student Health Center

We offer testing for students experiencing symptoms or simply for peace-of-mind for chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea and HIV. Current students are also eligible for our Free STI Testing Clinic once per semester, by appointment.


Communication

Just like in many other areas of our lives, communication is key when it comes to sex. Sexual communication helps us convey consent, preferences and information sharing like STI status. The more you practice talking about sex, the easier it gets. Below are “4 P’s” of sexual communication that can help start your conversation.

Preferences

All partners engaged in sexual activity should feel comfortable. Have conversations about your preferences for before, during and after sex and what you find pleasurable prior to engaging in sexual activity.

Practices

Discuss previous practices such as STI and HIV testing and results, past partners and experiences that are important for the safety and enjoyment of you and your partner.

Protection

Correct and consistent use of condoms and dental dams are among the most effective ways to promote harm reduction by preventing STI/HIV transmission. Informing your partner that you want to use a condom or dental dam is normal and supports your and your partner’s sexual health by fostering safety and respect.

Past Trauma

Disclosing the presence of past trauma or partner violence may help you feel safe with your current partner and help your partner respect your boundaries.

* adapted from American College Health Association, “Best Practices for Sexual Health Promotion and Clinical Care in College Health Settings”.